That should be the second name for Facebook. Avid users put themselves on the line everytime they update their status. Especially when their status update[s] takes issue with subject[s] in which their hearts take passionate tugs.
Relational individuals should most likely think twice before opening an account. They are more likely to be counting the number of friends they collect. Their hearts sink when a "friend" takes issues with their verbalized passion and goes so far as to take them off their list. OUCH. My year long developed opinion of severing action is that not everyone can handle their own personal differences of opinion with others. If they could, they wouldn't perceive "opinionated" posts as a personal attack so intolerable. Such has been my experience as I've made the significant choice to air personal standings on varying issues. Grant it, in doing so, the choice to make myself vulnerable to the judging social panel has also been made. The strongly relational heart sinks very low when an apparent cyber severing takes place. It's very personal for the severing shows the obvious sign[s] of just how conditional the relationship really is. How human. How painful.
In one severing, deliberately cutting statements were made. While I was accused of being an egotistical fanatic in my viewpoint lacking compassion for others, I couldn't help but make note of the obvious...that the "opponent" didn't exactly keep herself above approach. While I typed out my love towards her, she had no ability to reciprocate. The only reply to that was "I don't doubt you love me". It was important that I be informed of my lacking talents as a mother and human being. But oh, don't worry, "I will stay in touch through your husband because I care about your kids". Even more cutting was the "get a proper education, it'd be a beautiful thing for you children". So, no matter what my opinion, no matter the hundreds of hours poured into scientific and medical literature, regardless of the fact that she put herself in a position for questioning and debate/discussion by making her post on facebook, and the fact that [woe is me] I have feelings to... this was her obnoxious way of telling me the lack of "proper education" trumps any level of my intelligence and any social rights on the subject. It's not certified so I have no room to talk.
Where was her compassion? Where was her heart? None the less, she couldn't see beyond her own pride and grief over her children's medical circumstances to reasonably and intelligently accept my words at face value. It would've hurt her inflamed ego far too much to consider that maybe...just maybe I wasn't blaming her for her circumstances. Maybe....just maybe her chosen method of prevention didn't work?
Relational individuals should most likely think twice before opening an account. They are more likely to be counting the number of friends they collect. Their hearts sink when a "friend" takes issues with their verbalized passion and goes so far as to take them off their list. OUCH. My year long developed opinion of severing action is that not everyone can handle their own personal differences of opinion with others. If they could, they wouldn't perceive "opinionated" posts as a personal attack so intolerable. Such has been my experience as I've made the significant choice to air personal standings on varying issues. Grant it, in doing so, the choice to make myself vulnerable to the judging social panel has also been made. The strongly relational heart sinks very low when an apparent cyber severing takes place. It's very personal for the severing shows the obvious sign[s] of just how conditional the relationship really is. How human. How painful.
In one severing, deliberately cutting statements were made. While I was accused of being an egotistical fanatic in my viewpoint lacking compassion for others, I couldn't help but make note of the obvious...that the "opponent" didn't exactly keep herself above approach. While I typed out my love towards her, she had no ability to reciprocate. The only reply to that was "I don't doubt you love me". It was important that I be informed of my lacking talents as a mother and human being. But oh, don't worry, "I will stay in touch through your husband because I care about your kids". Even more cutting was the "get a proper education, it'd be a beautiful thing for you children". So, no matter what my opinion, no matter the hundreds of hours poured into scientific and medical literature, regardless of the fact that she put herself in a position for questioning and debate/discussion by making her post on facebook, and the fact that [woe is me] I have feelings to... this was her obnoxious way of telling me the lack of "proper education" trumps any level of my intelligence and any social rights on the subject. It's not certified so I have no room to talk.
Where was her compassion? Where was her heart? None the less, she couldn't see beyond her own pride and grief over her children's medical circumstances to reasonably and intelligently accept my words at face value. It would've hurt her inflamed ego far too much to consider that maybe...just maybe I wasn't blaming her for her circumstances. Maybe....just maybe her chosen method of prevention didn't work?
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